When you’re a mother, trying to find any me-time can be a lost cause, let alone more me-time! Do you sometimes reminisce about the times in your life when YOU were your priority?
When you had time to go to the gym, enjoy an early morning run or bike ride on the weekends? When life wasn’t so busy and you could prepare healthy meals for yourself, spend time reading an interesting book or enjoying an impromptu lunch with friends? Those were the days!
Compare that with your life today. Yes, you absolutely love your kids and can’t imagine your life without them, but some days can be a challenge. As a mum, you’ll agree that when you finally find a few minutes to yourself, some little person usually comes along and steals it. The kids, hubby, house, friends and extended family are always your highest priorities, but that means YOU have slipped to the bottom of the list. Where’s YOUR me-time?
Do any of the following situations ring some bells for you?
- Preparing healthy snacks and meals for your family while you eat leftovers or pick at food throughout the day.
- Putting on weight and losing your sense of self as the rest of the family becomes your main focus.
- Choosing unhealthy foods and even drinking alcohol to try and manage the stress of always being on the go.
- Eating chocolate and junk food as a reward and to make yourself feel better.
- Acting as the mum-taxi for everyone in the house.
- Feeling as if you never have time to yourself.
If any of the above scenarios resonate with you, then it’s time for some much-needed mum me-time! The problem is that changing your priorities and putting yourself first isn’t something that many mums can do easily. After all, how can you put your kids second?
This is where hypnosis can help because it doesn’t put your kids second, it helps you look at yourself and your beliefs differently. There’s nothing wrong with changing your outdated beliefs about what it means to be a mother, particularly if they aren’t working for you.
Would a different belief system make your life easier and your kids happier? Maybe it would!
Do you need more balance in your life?
Keeping yourself physically and mentally fit, as well as happy, creates a better environment for your kids. However, when you’re always racing against the clock and running around after everyone else, your stress levels tend to rise. Over time, increased stress results in anxiety, loss of self-esteem and self-image, followed by poor eating habits, weight gain, more stress and an inability to realise that there is a problem, let alone the ability to find a solution.
It’s a never-ending cycle that can seriously deplete your reserves to the point where you’re just going through the day without considering that there is an alternative. However, there is a world where you can look after your family and yourself without feeling stressed and anxious all the time.
The solution is a more balanced lifestyle and the key is hypnosis.
You need to fix your subconscious mind
Hypnosis or hypnotherapy is a method that induces a trance or dream-like state of deep relaxation. It’s in this relaxed state that your subconscious mind can be directly accessed and it’s where your actions and thoughts can be influenced.
That’s because your subconscious mind usually works in the background, leaving your conscious mind to deal with your day to day decision-making activities. For example, you use your conscious mind to think through a problem and make a decision. However, behind the scenes, your subconscious mind has been working rapidly to present different scenarios and feelings based on previous encounters or information. With this information, you make your decision, but what if your subconscious mind was biased?
How can your subconscious mind be biased? Well, it can only present information it already has to your conscious mind. It doesn’t know everything, so it falls back on what it already knows or has experienced. So if this information doesn’t always produce the best results – your subconscious mind needs better information.
For example, if you snack all day long and eat junk food because you’re too busy to do anything else, maybe your subconscious mind has given you this belief based on prior evidence. What if in response to a stressful lifestyle, your subconscious mind knows that the best way to reduce this stress temporarily is for you to eat junk food (this is a learned behaviour and it’s always worked for you before).
Negative feelings and low self-esteem combined with no time to sit and eat a healthy meal are the trigger points in this situation for your subconscious. This is where your subconscious goes looking for a solution to make you feel better and comes up with snacking or eating junk food. After all, it usually works and makes you feel better, so why not do it again?
It’s because you are time poor and stressed that you accept what your subconscious is suggesting. Snacking is a proven way to get through the day and it doesn’t matter, really, does it? When you have the time to prepare a nutritional meal, you will, but until then, snacking gets you through the day. So your subconscious mind is presenting you with a solution that has worked before and continues to work.
The problem is that you know that in the long term, you need to change what you are doing. Taking care of everyone else is fine, but what about taking care of YOU?
Hypnosis helps you access your subconscious mind
Hypnosis is a proven way to access your subconscious mind and give it new data. Essentially, you put your conscious mind in the back seat and bring your subconscious mind to the front seat. This allows you and your hypnotherapist to work directly with your subconscious, bypassing your conscious mind and inputting new data.
However, the longer a solution has been working for you, the harder it can be to accept an alternate solution. This is often why some people can change their habits quicker than others. So how can hypnotherapy bring balance back into your life and give you some much-needed mum me-time?
Hypnosis can help create a more balanced lifestyle
When you’re in a deep state of relaxation, your subconscious mind is highly suggestible and can be influenced much more easily than your conscious mind. Just telling yourself that you need to carve out some me-time during your day, eat healthier foods and stop drinking so much, isn’t likely to work. That’s because your conscious mind can argue the point and come up with lots of reasons why you would change if you could, but you have no time, too much stress and not enough hours in the day!
On the other hand, your subconscious mind doesn’t argue the point. It just accepts the information as facts. The key point here is that you need to also accept this information consciously as well. This brings your subconscious and conscious minds into alignment and then everything clicks into place.
So when you’re just about to start snacking, your conscious mind tik-tocks between snacking, junk food and a healthy meal. You know that you should opt for a healthy meal, but normally you would fall back on old behaviours presented by your subconscious. However, following a hypnosis session, your subconscious mind now reminds you that you should focus on preparing a healthy meal.
It’s at this time that you can make a conscious decision to ignore your subconscious mind. Even though your subconscious mind has just presented you with new information from your hypnosis session – to eat a healthy diet, you can still ignore it. That’s why you must want to change your habits, so you can support this new information coming from your subconscious mind. However, you are free to do what you want and you can ignore your subconscious at any time.
However, when you’ve decided to use hypnosis to help change your negative habits and improve your lifestyle, why would you sabotage your efforts?
Along with your hypnotist, you have accessed your subconscious mind and given it new instructions. So when a trigger occurs, such as food leftover from the kid’s breakfast, your subconscious no longer lets you know how good you’ll feel if you finished it yourself. Instead, it lets you know how good you’ll feel if you eat a healthy adult breakfast.
More me-time for mums!
It’s pointless trying to change your conscious mind when the evidence in your subconscious provides a different solution. Hypnosis helps you bring your subconscious and conscious minds into alignment, but it can only do so with your permission. You need to want to bring balance back into your life for hypnosis to work.
So if you want to break bad habits, reduce stress and anxiety, and feel more confident, call Skye now on 0402 006 985 to make a hypnosis appointment. Together, we can make you happier, healthier and more balanced!